SCHOOL NEWS - Growing up alongside a sibling with different needs and perspectives can teach valuable life lessons such as compassion, adaptability and the ability to see the world through someone else’s eyes.
It can foster resilience and an appreciation for the strengths that come with neurodiversity such as creativity, problem-solving skills or a fresh perspective on everyday situations.
However, this dynamic also comes with its share of challenges.
Siblings may struggle to understand their brother or sister’s behaviours, especially when those behaviours seem unusual or disruptive.
They might not understand why their sibling has meltdowns, avoids social situations, or has difficulty communicating.
This lack of understanding can sometimes lead to frustration, confusion or resentment.
Additionally, neurodiverse siblings often require extra attention and support from parents, which can leave other children feeling overlooked, less important, and lead to jealousy. In some instances, these challenges can give rise to misconceptions such that the behaviour is perceived as intentional or that they are being “difficult” on purpose.
Without guidance, these challenges can strain sibling relationships and affect the overall harmony of the family.
As parents, your role is crucial in helping your children navigate these complexities. By fostering open communication and creating opportunities for education about neurodiversity, you can help siblings develop a deeper understanding of their brother or sister’s challenges and strengths.
This understanding can lead to greater empathy, reducing frustration or jealousy. Additionally, by acknowledging and validating the emotions of all your children, you ensure that everyone feels heard and valued.
The following are practical ways to support siblings:
Encourage questions
Create an open environment where siblings feel safe asking questions about neurodiversity, no matter how small or sensitive.
Tip: Use age-appropriate books or videos to help explain concepts.
Validate their feelings
Siblings may experience a range of emotions, from pride to frustration. Let them know their feelings are normal and important.
Example: “It is okay to feel upset sometimes. Let us talk about what is bothering you.”
Provide coping strategies
Equip siblings with tools to handle challenging situations, such as:
- Stepping away for a moment when they feel overwhelmed.
- Using phrases like, “Let us take turns,” to set boundaries with their sibling.
Celebrate their role
Acknowledge the patience, kindness, and understanding they show toward their sibling. Praise their efforts and remind them they are making a difference.
Connect with other families
Joining support groups or connecting with other families with neurodiverse children can help your child feel less alone and gain valuable insights.
When siblings are equipped with the tools to understand and support their neurodiverse brother or sister, they not only strengthen their family bonds but also carry these lessons into the outside world.
This can help them become more compassionate and inclusive individuals, shaping a future where diversity is celebrated, not misunderstood. By addressing these challenges proactively, you can create a supportive and harmonious family environment where every child thrives.
Jody Pringle, Educational Psychologist at Bellavista S.H.A.R.E
Article: Caxton publication, Caxton Network News
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